Hey, I'm Not a Doormat!
Did you ever feel like you were being taken advantage of? If you have, and it seems to have become apattern, .....that’s good! Yeah, good. Good because it’s a sign post...it’s a red flag....it’s like an alarm going off saying, “Look here! Look here! There’s something here for you." What is it? It’s an Ah-ha moment, a realization, an empowerment. And these are the very things that free us.
If I want the gift from these feel-bad situations, I’m going to want to see through to the Truth. I take an unbiased, honest look inside myself and see the isness of the situation. The what-is of a situation without the minds labels and judgements. And when I do, I find that somewhere along the line, I took advantage of myself.
Maybe I said yes, when It would have made me much happier to say no. Maybe I accepted less than what was offered. Maybe I’m excessively critical of myself out of a fear of not being good enough. Maybe I did not set boundaries because I thought that would not be well received. Maybe I tried too hard to please others at my own expense.
My feeling taken advantage of couldn’t have happened any other way. I couldn’t have an experience of being taken advantage of if I weren’t taking advantage of myself somewhere along the line. What’s in is out. What I feel and believe on the inside will be reflected outside of me in the experiences of my life. Why? This is God's, or the Universe’s way of letting us know that we can use a little polishing in the self-love and appreciation area, that’s all. And I'm sure grateful for that.
Why don’t I see this on my own? The thinking mind gets in between and evaluates it, labels it, judges it....what it does is pretty much skews the Truth, the actual isness of it all.
How can I make this situation better for myself? I can pay attention to me. If I want to get good at being good to me what I do is put my focus on what I think, what I like, what makes me happy.....and follow through. Not just put my focus on what others like, think or feel, but gift myself my own attention. A car doesn’t run on an empty tank, ya know.
So this is what I do when I practice being good to myself. And when I’m good to myself, I will begin to experience everyone and everything else being good to me as well.